Monday, 27 July 2009


If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can't 'be friends.' A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think 'it will get better'. You'll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant...
Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord!? If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships............. there is nothing cute about
baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists
of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary... not supplementary.

Dating is fun... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're
always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another
RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate
them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.



  1. Yeppers. I agree. You can reverse the genders and it would ALL be just as valid.

  2. Good advice all-around. Especially the "don't settle" bit!

  3. Damn it... I knew I was too bendy...

  4. If a man wants a woman he'll usually take her. If a man needs a woman he'll go out of his way to get her. But if a man loves a woman, he'll do anything in his power to keep her.

  5. I'd agree with most of that - with a few small caveats, possibly just because I'm difficult - but I'd also echo Jonas' comment: the same should apply to how we men deal with women :-)

  6. What excellent advice.
    I tried to single one out for a special mention - but they all seem equally important.
    The one about having your own set of friends is vital.

  7. Good morning Ponita,

    Two people usually find each other and the mutual respect, commitment and compatibility issues generally sort themselves out.

    I get what you're saying but I'm not into "never". I consider it a neutron and whenever I hang on to any, it usually attracts others. I'm more of a proton.

    So the protrons in me say that you're encouraging the sisters to "use wisdom regarding relationships" and that's sound advice.


  8. To All: I just thought this was pretty appropriate for most people. You can always tweek something like this given your own personal experiences, but the general jist is sound, for both men and women, I think. I didn't write it... just copied it... after a male friend showed it to me.

  9. advice we can all use/remember, sugar! xoxox


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